Ok, I stopped. Now what?
Mark Twain once said, “Quitting smoking is easy. I have done it a thousand times!” We laugh because we relate. So staying off is where it's at. But how? How do we keep it up? It all comes down to how you have learned to deal with the urges.
Most programs teach you that urges are bad and are to be avoided at all cost. Most people like this idea because, let's face it, who wants to be uncomfortable? So, you pop a piece of nicotine gum, or a cookie, and voila! No more urges! ...until the next urge to smoke. Then what? More gum, more cookies, more substitutes to get rid of the urges that seem to be tansferred into a new need for gum, sugar, cafeine, etc. So because you have not been taught how to deal with your dependency on nicotine to begin with, now you end up having a dependency on both the substitute AND nicotine!
You see, with these other methods you are atttempting to solve the nicotine problem with the same junkie mind that created it to begin with. You cannot solve your dependency on nicotine by transferring it onto other substances, thereby refusing to acknowledge and deal with your desires. But the good news is, once you have learned to see your desires to smoke for what they are, you can then be fortified with the solution in a step-by-step method. It works! I am a living example.
That is why you need ongoing support after you have stopped, so that your junkie mind gets transformed while going through the process. It happens gradually, moment by moment, day after day. That quick fix you you were chasing is traded for a profound, positive and lasting freedom that you restored.